The amount of manipulation that goes on in a relationship directly correlates to the level of toxicity between two people. There’s just no denying that at all. When you’re in a happy and healthy relationship with someone, you should always expect to trust and respect one another as individuals. No one should ever have to endure manipulative behavior from a person they’re supposedly in a loving relationship with. If your partner were truly in love with you in the way that you would want hem to be, then they would never deliberately do anything that would harm you in such a deceiving and abusive manner. They wouldn’t use you like some mere tool or instrument to just get what they want. You should never have to tolerate that kind of treatment in a relationship. If you are unfortunate enough to find yourself in that position, then you would know that your manipulative partner is a master at hiding their true intentions and motivations to absolve them of their guilt in your eyes. They will make it seem like their behavior is perfectly innocent and that you’re just paying witness to a perfectly normal and functional relationship. And that’s why it can get particularly difficult to just end things with a manipulative partner. It’s because you never know you’re being victimized unless you have heightened senses of self-awareness or if other people are actually kind enough to point it out to you. In most cases, victims of a manipulative relationship are often blind to the sad realities of their situation and that’s what makes the manipulators so effective at what they do.
You can have the most genuine heart in the world but that doesn’t mean that people are always going to treat you fairly. Just because you are an inherently kind and loving individual, you can’t just assume that people are going to act the same way towards you. You are going to be just as open to manipulation and abuse even if you are kind. In fact, you might be a favorite target for these manipulative people. Your kindness can often be seen as weakness and manipulative people would love to prey on you because of it.
So that’s why it’s important for you to always maintain a good sense of self-awareness. If you know what manipulative behavior looks like, then it would be easier for you to spot in your relationships. And the better informed you are, the more equipped you will be to shield yourself from all of this manipulative behavior. You would never want to subject yourself to being a victim in these kinds of relationships. You always want to ensure that you are aware of the things that are going on in your relationship. You don’t want to be kept in the dark about your partner’s hidden agenda. So read on until the end of this article to educate yourself more on the behavior of manipulative individuals so that you will be better equipped to defend yourself from them.
1. He always starts off being super charming.
He will want to gain your trust at first and he knows he can only do that by seducing you with his charm. He will get your defenses down before he engages in his manipulative behavior.
2. He lies to you on a constant basis.
He constantly deceives you and lies to you. He does this to try to blur the lines between what is true and what isn’t in an effort to confuse you further.
3. He undermines whatever issue you want to raise about your relationship.
He always finds a way to make you think that your opinion doesn’t matter. And if he does it consistently, he will actually be able t make you believe it.
4. He makes you doubt your own beliefs.
One of the most effective ways to make you abandon your defenses is to convince you that your beliefs are actually invalid.
5. He twists your own words against you.
He will constantly use your own words against you in an effort to confuse you.
6. He convinces you that you are only overreacting.
He will make you think that you are blowing things out of proportion; that everything is perfectly normal even though they aren’t.
7. He guilts you into thinking that you are the bad guy in the relationship.
He will act as if he is the victim and that you are the one who is being manipulative in the relationship.
8. He acts passive-aggressive with you.
He won’t necessarily address issues with you head-on. He wants to absolve himself of responsibility or guilt by always taking passive-aggressive approaches in dealing with the issues he has in your relationship.
9. He goes over the top with his temper tantrums.
He will not want you to pester him and so he will try to intimidate you with his intensity when he gets upset.
10. He desires to be the center of attention in the relationship always.
He knows that if all of the attention of the relationship is on him, you won’t notice the negative feelings that you are dealing with.
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