Relationships, in particular, and love in general are difficult things. I use the word in its simplest for; they are not simple and given things.
They are complicated and there will be times when you think you are losing more than you get in return, but like Woody Allen says: “..we keep going through it because we need the eggs.”
Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world; it is fulfilling, like a warm hug on a chilly winter morning.
Relationships, and we’re speaking about the healthy ones, built on mutual love, respect, trust and friendships, are one of the most completing experiences you can have. Sharing your life with another person can be quite the ride, but given there is mutual effort, it indeed becomes a bed of roses.
However, this bed of roses is very fragile and can be easily upturned and destroyed. This list will help you identify ten things that kill relationships with utmost ease and knowing them might help you avoid the same fate.
1. LACK OF TRUST IN YOUR PARTNER
Meaningless suspicion is a big no-no in any relationship. Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect. Suspicion destroys relationships immediately and it is very hard to get over the fact that you are suspected by the one person you thought trusts you entirely. Always be open with each other and talk through things so the trust can grow bigger and stronger.
2. NOT LISTENING
Simple fact: Conversation is a two way street. And listening to your partner sends off very positive vibes: shows that you care about them and whatever goes on in their lives.
Try not to make everything about yourself. Listen and pay attention.
3. NOT HAVING ENOUGH TIME FOR YOUR PARTNER
This is a big relationship killer.
No matter how busy you are, find and make time for them. Show them you care and that they matter to you. Make them a priority.
Life can be very tiring and mostly frustrating; try to be the cause of their smiles and not their frowns.
4. GIVE THEM SPACE
Continuing from the previous point, do not take it too far though.
Remember, everyone has their own life too and everyone needs a little bit of alone time.
Do not intrude on that.
Do we need to elaborate on this? Just don’t do it.
If you have had enough, just tell them you want to end it before going around sowing your wild oats.
6. DON’T TAKE IT FOR GRANTED
Take no one for granted. Enjoy every moment you have with the one you love.
Life is short, you never know what tomorrow will bring. So cherish today and cherish them.
It’s literally one of the Seven Cardinal Sins. Past a certain degree, jealousy is just plain obsession and obsessing over your partner is never a healthy thing.
They might have friends that are just theirs and they probably like spending time with them. Understand the concept of them having a personal life too and you will see that your jealousy was unnecessary.
Where there is love, there is no room for envy.
Another no-no. Just don’t do it.
Flirting with others while in a relationship just translates to you considering your partner an expendable asset; a stepping stone to the next one in your series of romances.
No one deserves that feeling, especially not the one you love.
So, just don’t do it, no matter how tempting it can be at times.
9. TALK TOO MUCH ABOUT YOUR EX
Even if it is to tell your partner how much better they are, it’s better if you don’t do it. Just enjoy conversations about other things besides dissing your ex.
On the other hand, if you are talking too much about your ex in positive senses, you should take your time and think on the possibility of you not being over them.
10. KEEP SECRETS FROM THEM
Yes, you have your own private life, but that does not give you the right to hide things from your partner.
That just makes you conceited and shady.
Communication is one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship and you should appreciate its value while there is time. Keeping things from them can break the trust you two have, and once that is gone, so is the relationship.